Relationships

As social animals, our intimate relationships profoundly impact our overall quality of life. An 80-year study conducted by Harvard researchers on happiness supports this by showing that well-being is most directly correlated to the quality of our close relationships — even more than the amount of money we have, our career path, or our health status. Our romantic relationships are some of the most intense, euphoric, and protective connections, but they can also serve as potent mirrors for our insecurities, fears, and vulnerabilities. After the intoxicating falling-in-love stage, many couples can unknowingly devolve into vicious cycles of projection and defensiveness.

Through a multimodal approach, I support couples in the difficult work of breaking out of these cycles. My work encourages each individual to look inward with gentle curiosity about how they may be fueling dysfunctional relationship patterns. A foundational aspect of the work is to help partners accept their separateness from each other and to transform their differences from a source of contention into a source of strength, flexibility, and eroticism. To me, one of the most meaningful parts of couples work is how a relationship can serve as a vessel for individual growth and sometimes even self-transcendence.

All of my therapeutic work is trauma-informed and aimed at bridging the experience of the mind and body.

I welcome clients of all gender expressions and identities, as well as straight and queer couples in all relationship styles.